Narcissism
His remark was on target, a precise incision
Piercing her soft tender heart, a gory vision
Where had their infinite mutual love slunk
Reservoirs of their affection dried, sunk?
Their romance was a much touted affair
People spoke about it then, everywhere
The marriage and long guest list of VIPs
Ballroom reception and honeymoon trips
All were the talk of the town, a grand event
A frantic planning with lots of money spent
Soon all excitement subsided, routine crept in
An uneventful life with work and play therein
Until one fine day, they were visited by the stork
All concerned toasted and sang, popping the cork
The twins made a rocking entry rocking her boat
Attention was diverted from him, as was her wont
He resented time spent with babies and his resultant neglect
She was hard put to convince him babies needed her to protect
He was an only, rich child conditioned to be always number one
Thus he forgot paternal duties, blinded by selfish needs, rotten
Thwarted, he began to dislike his baby sons much to her chagrin
As mom, she was helpless, as lover she cringed at this, life’s tailspin
Blinded by his own neglect and imaginary slights he began to stay out
Her busy day flew in maternal duties and nights became total blackout
Finally matters came to a head, he found love and attention in other arms
She was heartbroken, then she The MOM took up cudgels like firearms
She returned home to her old nest with twins sleeping on her loving breast
Grandparents, friends rallied around like a fort, assured she will top this test
Indomitable fighting spirit made her shine as mom, daughter and entrepreneur
Business thrived as the twins survived immersed in love, soon becoming mature
Role reversal took place and soon reins changed hands with change of guard
Twins were both level headed knowing well what real life and living were about
The old curmudgeon meanwhile was left alone as fair weather friends flew away
Full of shame he recalled now forgotten mistreated family in past he did betray
Repentance ate like a canker into his grieving soul as he lay dying, calling her name
His lament penetrated her soul, with twins she reached his bedside without any blame
Father n sons bid farewell, only one solitary paternal blessing worth a lifetime
She forgave all his trespasses as experience had taught her to live a life sublime
His final journey began where he was again the CYNOSURE of all weeping eyes
His departing soul thus rejoiced as this came to pass finally at his own demise!!!
A little neglect may breed great mischief:..for want of a nail the shoe was lost; for want of a shoe the horse was lost; and for want of a horse the rider was lost.
Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanack, 1758
Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either. - Erich Fromm American, Psychologist Quotes
Men are what their mother’s made them. Emerson, The Conduct of Life, 1860
As selfishness and complaint pervert the mind, so love with its joy clears and sharpens the vision. - Helen Keller American, Author Quotes
Pity the selfishness of lovers: it is brief, a forlorn hope; it is impossible.
Elizabeth Bowen Irish, Novelist Quotes
Maternity is on the face of it an unsociable experience. The selfishness that a woman has learned to stifle or to dissemble where she alone is concerned, blooms freely and unashamed on behalf of her offspring. - Emily James Putnam
Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their narcissism. - Sigmund Freud Austrian, Psychologist
Connectivity
Positive and negative wires
Currents of coursing desires
Gained momentum
Upon connectivity
His eyes brimming mischief
Hers inviting just enough
Instant communication
Upon connectivity
His body language telling
Hers preening veering
Sunflowers seeking sun
Upon connectivity
His blood running marathons
Hers promising fulfilling dawns
A gazebo of four arms
Upon connectivity
Dreamy mutual glazed glances
Requiting oft dreamed splurges
Readily abandoning to urges
Upon connectivity
A handsome dude approaches
A lovely damsel also traipses
She grabs him, he her
Upon perfect connectivity
Sorry, cross connections
Unfulfilled gratifications
Please stand by
For
Connectivity
Indefinitely???
Send home my long-strayed eyes to me,
Which (Oh) too long have dwelt on thee.- John Donne, “The Message,” 1595
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired- Robert Frost, in coversation
May your every wish be granted- ancient Chinese curse
Love, all alike, no seasons knows, nor clime
Nor hours, days, months, which are the range of time.
- John Donne, The Sun Rising,1595
Often we are firm from weakness, and audacious from timidity.
-La Rochefoucauld, Maxims 1665
Biological weakness is the condition of human culture.
Erich Fromm, Escape from Freedom, 941
How few are our real wants! And how easy it is to satisfy them!
Our imaginary ones are boundless and insatiable.
Julius Charles Hare & Augustus William Hare, Guesses At Truth, 1827
Some desire is necessary to keep life in motion, and he whose real wants are supplied
Must admit those of fancy.- Samuel Johnson, Rasselas, 1759
We do not succeed in changing things according to our desires, but gradually our desire changes.
– Proust, Albertine disparue, 1925
I look at what I have and think myself unhappy; others look at what I have and
Think me happy.- Joseph Roux, Meditations of a Parish Priest, 1886.
Ultimate Destiny
Tree studded forests beckoned us enticingly
Upright stalwarts pointing upwards thoughtfully
Dozing cozy in sleeping bags in forest clearing
My eyes beheld inky midnight skies unfolding
Stars huddled in colonies or self starters, shining
Winking bright and naughty, saucily twinkling
I wondered at this great vastness calmly stretching
The miracle of the master artist constantly etching
Numerous constellations and galaxies, drawing
Breathing life in miniscule to the greatest being
All with a purpose in this great scheme of existing
Caring nurturing dispensing justice to all, protecting
Things in true perspective had me realizing, wondering
I was a mere speck in this mammoth tree of life flowering
What is the great plan and purpose of all creatures living?
Journey it is, a progression with attrition and surviving
Elevating into the higher echelons of the food chain
Is this my only goal or is there another spiritual gain
Improving, improvising constructively progressing surviving
Inexorably moving towards the ultimate goal of achieving
The one grand prize we all are created for in the first place
Oneness with the One who sent us forth to purify with grace
Man’s ultimate destiny is to become one with the Divine Power which governs and sustains the creation and its creatures.-Alfred A. Montapert American Author
It’s not what’s happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become. Rather, it’s your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you’re going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny.
Anthony Robbins 1960-, US Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Expert / Consultant
The purpose of life is a life of purpose. -Robert Byrne , American, Celebrity Quotes
The main purpose of life is to live rightly, think rightly, act rightly. The soul must languish when we give all our thought to the body.- Mohandas Gandhi ,Indian, Leader
The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls.-Pablo Picasso
Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose. From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know that man is here for the sake of other men.
Albert Einstein
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Our minds are finite, and yet even in these circumstances of finitude we are surrounded by possibilities that are infinite, and the purpose of life is to grasp as much as we can out of that infinitude. - Alfred North Whitehead English, Mathematician Quotes
Pure Spirit, one hundred degrees proof — that’s a drink that only the most hardened contemplation-guzzlers indulge in. Bodhisattvas dilute their Nirvana with equal parts of love and work. -Aldous Huxley 1894-1963, British Author
You ask: what is the meaning or purpose of life? I can only answer with another question: do you think we are wise enough to read God’s mind?- Freeman Dyson ,US Physicist
Our actions throughout the day seek to imitate nature by having a purpose. Kindness is like the rising of the sun that sheds new light on matters and compassion is like the rain that washes a way the old and nurtures new life. -Michael Heninger Social Services
Relationships
Some give joy, some sadness
Some give love, some hatred
Some give affection, some disdain
Some infect, some shun
Some bind, some separate
Some nurture, some rupture
Some heal, some wound
Some enchant, some disenchant
Some attract, some distract
Some make fearless, some fearful
Some calm, some anger
Some give joie de vivre, some apathy
Some give fighting spirit, some resignation
Some give faith, some jealousy
Some give relief, some stress
Some give pleasure, some pain
Some excite, some leave cold
Some cool, some burn
Some give shivers, some sear
Some grow, some wither
Some progress, some stagnate
Some magnetize, some recoil,
Some invite, some resist
Some mesmerize, some repel
Some awaken, some hypnotize
Some accept, some agonize
Some adore, some bore
Some negotiate, some hedge
Some please, some jar
Some give, some receive
Some fly, some dive
Some elevate, some denigrate
Some encourage, some discourage
Some are light, some heavy
Some are real, some pseudo
Some are authentic, some flaky
Some are solid, some shaky
Some measure up, some disappoint
Life in sum total is an intricate cobweb
Of complex simple human relationships
Forgiveness is the oil of relationships.–Josh Mcdowell
Understand that you, yourself, are no more than the composite picture of all your thoughts and actions. In your relationships with others, remember the basic and critically important rule: If you want to be loved, be lovable. If you want respect, set a respectable example!
Denis Waitley 1933-, American Author, Speaker, Trainer, Peak Performance Expert
When you’re in a relationship, you’re always surrounded by a ring of circumstances…
joined together by a wedding ring, or in a boxing ring.
Bob Seger American Musician, Singer
The glue that holds all relationships together — including the relationship
between the leader and the led is trust, and trust is based on integrity.
Brian Tracy American Trainer, Speaker, Author, Businessman
Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth
between partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.
Colette Dowling
It is the things in common that make relationships enjoyable,
but it is the little differences that make them interesting.
Todd Ruthman
The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.
Anthony Robbins,1960, American Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Expert / Consultant
When the body sinks into death, the essence of man is revealed. Man is a knot, a web, a mesh into which relationships are tied. Only those relationships matter. The body is an old crock that nobody will miss. I have never known a man to think of himself when dying. Never. -Antoine De Saint-Exupery, 1900-1944, French Aviator, Writer
The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are. And if our words and our actions come from superficial human relations techniques (the Personality Ethic) rather than from our own inner core (the Character Ethic), others will sense that duplicity. We simply won’t be able to create and sustain the foundation necessary for effective interdependence.Lose/Win people bury a lot of feelings. And unexpressed feelings come forth later in uglier ways. Psychosomatic illnesses often are the reincarnation of cumulative resentment, deep
disappointment and disillusionment repressed by the Lose/Win mentality. Disproportionate rage or anger, overreaction to minor provocation, and cynicism are other embodiments of suppressed emotion. People who are constantly repressing, not transcending feelings toward a higher meaning find that it affects the quality of their relationships with others.
Stephen R. Covey ,American Speaker, Trainer, Author of ”The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”
Today we are faced with the preeminent fact that, if civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships… the ability of all peoples, of all kinds, to live together,in the same world, at peace.
Franklin D. Roosevelt, 1882-1945, Thirty-second President of the USA
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
Anthony Robbins, 1960-, American Author, Speaker, Peak Performance Expert / Consultant
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands.- Alexandria Penney
We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves. - Henri Frederic Amiel 1821-1881, Swiss Philosopher, Poet, Critic
A relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark.
Woody Allen 1935-, American Director, Screenwriter, Actor, Comedian
As a result of trying to solve the big problems we face in life, many of us end up sacrificing individual relationships by doing things that we may consider as being small or insignificant at the time. This reminds us of the George and Gracie routine where George asks Gracie, How do you cook a pot roast? She replied,
I put both a big pot roast and a small pot roast in the oven. When the small one is burnt, the big one is done just right! - Source Unknown
It is explained that all relationships require a little give and take. This is untrue.
Any partnership demands that we give and give and give and at the last, as we flop into
our graves exhausted, we are told that we didn’t give enough.
Quentin Crisp English, Writer Quotes
In human relationships, kindness and lies are worth a thousand truths.
Graham Greene British, Journalist Quotes
PS: having gone through the whole gamut in my relationships, I tried to pin them by penning them and above is the outcome :) (what kind of relationships do you have ?)
Time Warp
Hastily walking running jogging
Trigger triggers hurtling funneling
Down vortex of my life’s tunnel
Few patches of faded negatives slide
Trinkets n milk teeth gleaming glide
Umpteen tales princes and magic rides
Surface, thrilling rollercoaster
Whizzing, joyous cracker rockets
Forgotten pals in memory’s time pocket
Excitedly curiously lifting the veil of tarp
From times past I catch a glimpse of a harp
Buddies, old vinyls, armchair in time warp
Old ditties reverberate in head soothing
Friends all same stationary, me drifting
Navigating bravely twists n turns tasting
They say rolling stone gathers no hay
Yet tasting cup of life self, happen what may
Is by far better, defying, denying destiny its own way
Time warp made me realize
I envied none as I surmised
I was richer living life king size
No movement can afford to be caught in a time warp and
exist in a state of suspended animation.
Theodore Bikel
Austrian, Actor Quotes
The timelessness of a concept has to be woven into the
running warp of dying time, vertical power has to be
wedded to the horizontal earth.
Ella Maillart
Swiss, Writer Quotes
If someone is making a judgment when they don’t have
firsthand experience, it’s intolerant. How can you make
a judgment on something you don’t know about?
Beck American, Musician Quotes
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences
of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared,
ambition inspired and success achieved.
Helen Keller
American, Author Quotes
In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins:
cash and experience. Take the experience first;
the cash will come later.
Harold S. Geneen, 1910-, American Accountant, Industrialist, CEO, ITT
There are those who think they can play you like a fiddle.
I never tell them they are bad musicians, I just pluck their strings!
Carl Stoynoff, poet/philosopher
Sandcastles
Childhood and sandcastle are akin with a short life span
Both to be relished fully as time and tide wait for no man
Teens come upon us suddenly making us spurt and sprout
Sandcastles too get better defined in these hands no doubt
Youth comes along merrily and emotions take front seat
Exploration n awareness bring love, quickening heartbeat
dreams dreamed, sandcastles built
enjoyed living without any guilt
High on cloud nine, in gold palace fine
entwined by loving arms, blissful, divine
Throes of exquisite first raptures
brief glowing fireflies captured
embedded treasure trove of cherished memories
gleaming sun catchers of tender love’s trophies
open sesame gained easily alibaba treasures
all in palms of hand without tough measures
four hands touched created dreamy castle in sand
promising eternal love beneath blue sky and land
the ocean heard and laughed at this innocence
shaking in mirth sending riptides as hindrance
love nest of sandcastle gulped in many a stride
telltale signs remained not, on beach, woe betide
lost grandeur of what once had been
handful of promises with lovely sheen
warming and fanning eternal love flames
at the hearth of sandcastle’s fireplace
ensconced lovingly in mansion built on sandy stretch
passing meteor briefly held, joyful catch, unlatched
“A hero is one who digs the moat while you build your sand castle.” By Sylphia, from internet
Hekyll And jekyll
Hekyll And Jekyll
Two faced
We all are
One for self
One for them
One acquiescing
One denying
One watching
One playing
One laidback
One proactive
One judgmental
One easygoing
One frivolous
One serious
One god fearing
One daredevil
One pathetic
One brave
One penitent
One incorrigible
One biting the bullet
One cringing
One shameful
One shameless
One witness
One witnessing
We are all one or the
Other sometime
For sure if not all the
Time!!!!
The essence of all jokes, of all comedy, seems to be an honest or
well intended halfness; a non performance of that which is
pretended to be performed, at the same time that one is giving
loud pledges of performance. The balking of the intellect,
is comedy and it announces itself in the pleasant spasms we call laughter.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)
It’s silly to go on pretending that under the skin we are all brothers.
The truth is more likely that under the skin we are all cannibals
assassins, traitors, liars, hypocrites, poltroons.
Henry Miller (1891 - 1980)
The mind can assert anything and pretend it has proved it.
My beliefs I test on my body, on my intuitional consciousness,
and when I get a response there, then I accept.
D. H. Lawrence (1885 - 1930)
In our society those who are in reality superior in intelligence
can be accepted by their fellows only if they pretend they are not.
Marya Mannes
To know that you do not know is the best.
To pretend to know when you do not know is a disease.
Lao-tzu (604 BC - 531 BC), The Way of Lao-tzu
A flatterer is a friend who is your inferior, or pretends to be so.
Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC)
I am an agnostic; I do not pretend to know what many ignorant men are sure of.
Clarence Darrow (1857 - 1938)
The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.
Socrates (469 BC - 399 BC)
Popularity comes from allowing yourself to be bored by people while pretending to enjoy it.
Karol Newlin
Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.
Alan Watts
We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful what we pretend to be.
Kurt Vonnegut (1922 - 2007), Mother Night
Most people have seen worse things in private than they pretend to be shocked at in public.
Edgar Watson Howe (1853 - 1937)
You can pretend to be serious; you can’t pretend to be witty.
Sacha Guitry (1885 - 1957)
If there is one thing worse than being an ugly duckling in a house of swans,
it’s having the swans pretend there’s no difference.
Teena Booth, Falling From Fire
Towers Of Silence
(”Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony is the most sublime noise
that has ever penetrated into the ear of man.”)
E. M. Forster, Howard’s End, 1910
Towers Of Silence
Cacophony all over
Has me gasping for air
Noisy din everywhere
Soothing solace nowhere
Running for cover hither and thither
Sans relieving respite, teetering tottering
Gasping pathetically in throes of despair
Every pore in body beseeching succor
Onslaught of high decibels beating galore
My soul cringing, crying no more no more
Begging for salve of peace from noisy gore
Stuffing ears, saving drums is need of hour
Recalling times of pin drop silences of yore
Calmly I collect and curl self, escaping at once
Internally, seeking refuge in the towers of silence
Tranquil, rejuvenating, engaging moments of penance
Reliving olden golden times replete with substance
Living was real not virtual n life was in perfect balance
Nature, relationships, country were held in reverence
Sanctity of boundaries, freedom had real credence
The towers of silence reverberate with a life force
A soundless rhythmic throbbing, vibrating resource
Warming cockles of heart, resuscitating perforce
Curing compulsively young old hurting workhorse
Suffusing radiance, soothing calming great resource
The towers of silence, imparting mute discourse
Rejuvenating sanctuary, away from life’s frenetic racecourse
We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature — trees, flowers, grass — grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence. We need silence to be able to touch souls.
Mother Teresa 1910-1997, Albanian-born Roman Catholic Missionary
Not every truth is the better for showing its face undisguised; and often silence is the wisest thing for a man to heed.
Pindar Greek, Poet Quotes
I think television has betrayed the meaning of democratic speech, adding visual chaos to the confusion of voices. What role does silence have in all this noise?
Federico Fellini Italian, Director Quotes
The questions worth asking, in other words, come not from other people but from nature, and are for the most part delicate things easily drowned out by the noise of everyday life.
Robert B. Laughlin American, Physicist Quotes
Silence is as deep as eternity, speech a shallow as time.
Silence is more eloquent than words.
Thomas Carlyle ,Scottish, Philosopher Quotes
One of the best things about paintings is their silence - which prompts reflection and random reverie.
Mark Stevens Author Nationalities, Actor Quotes
One of my all time fav.songs by Simon And Garfunkel
The Sound Of Silence
Hello darkness, my old friend,
Ive come to talk with you again,
Because a vision softly creeping,
Left its seeds while I was sleeping,
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence.
In restless dreams I walked alone
Narrow streets of cobblestone,
neath the halo of a street lamp,
I turned my collar to the cold and damp
When my eyes were stabbed by the flash of
A neon light
That split the night
And touched the sound of silence.
And in the naked light I saw
Ten thousand people, maybe more.
People talking without speaking,
People hearing without listening,
People writing songs that voices never share
And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence.
Fools said i,you do not know
Silence like a cancer grows.
Hear my words that I might teach you,
Take my arms that I might reach you.
But my words like silent raindrops fell,
And echoed
In the wells of silence
And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon God they made.
And the sign flashed out its warning,
In the words that it was forming.
And the signs said, the words of the prophets
Are written on the subway walls
And tenement halls.
And whisperd in the sounds of silence.
Love A to Zee
A Love Story
(Alphabetically)
Alluring
Beguiling
Comely
Dynamite
Enchanting
Femme Fatale
Gently entrapped
Him forever
In Love lasso
Jubilantly embracing
Knight In Shining Armour
Love enthralling both
Merging spirits
Night And Day
Overcome with passion
Paradise regained
Qunintessentially
Rapturous wonderment
Sufficient unto each other
Time and Tide meaningless
Under benevolent Cupid thrall
Victoriously Declaring
Wonder Of it All
Xanadu
Yearning no more
Zenith of love achieved at last
One who has not only the four S’s, which are required in every good lover,
but even the whole alphabet; as for example… Agreeable, Bountiful, Constant,
Dutiful, Easy, Faithful, Gallant, Honorable, Ingenious, Kind, Loyal, Mild,
Noble, Officious, Prudent, Quiet, Rich, Secret, True, Valiant, Wise; the X indeed,
is too harsh a letter to agree with him, but he is Young and Zealous.
Miguel De Cervantes
1547-1616, Spanish Novelist, Dramatist, Poet
Making Memories (Family Album)
First sighting
instant
Déjà vu
Transmigration
Osmosis
Merging
Making memories
1,2,3,4..
Tough two knitting needles
Strong, upright, tensile, resilient
Yarns of love and trust hold tight
The skeins of two colorful personas
Multi-hued crisscrossing mingling
Kaleidoscope like forming patterns
Intricate and unique pleasuring both
The onlookers and performers alike
Yet, unalike, as involvements are unalike
Betwixt memory makers n memory shakers
The woof and wharf of two lives’ fabrics
Takes on a unique blended designer beauty
Skilled cohabitation and masterful dance
In step, in sync, gracefully bending, pirouetting
Twirling, nuzzling, guzzling, feeding
Merging, submerging, panicking, smiling
Living, loving, flying, jiving, diving, divining
Singing, winging, zinging, singeing, searing
Creating a very personal private memory bank
Enriched with coins of life well earned together
Spending from it lovingly, in bits and bytes
Storing in memory chips, in print and virtually
For progeny to enjoy and cherish in later life
As memory makers waltz into horizon, for posterity
I cannot say good-bye to those whom I have grown to love,
for the memories we have made will last a lifetime and never know a good-bye
Anonymous
The difference between false memories and true ones is the same as for jewels:
it is always the false ones that look the most real, the most brilliant.
Salvador Dali
Spanish, Artist Quotes
The one thing I need to leave behind is good memories.
Michael Landon
American, Actor Quotes
A life-long blessing for children is to fill them with warm memories of
times together. Happy memories become treasures in the heart to pull
out on the tough days of adulthood
Charlotte Davis Kasl
Author Nationalities, Politician Quotes
